You have to decide what you really want.

Love Dr. Rob

“It should all be so simple, but you’d rather make it hard. Loving you is like a battle and we both end up with scars.” Does it feel like Lauren was talking about you? What’s wrong with this man? You have been there for him through it all. The good, the bad, the ugly, the baby mama drama, the I’m doing bad, and even the I’m just doing me stage, and he still doesn’t see what he has.  What can you do when he won’t change?

When is he going to get it? All that you have put up with to prove to him you’re that one, for this dummy to still be looking for it. They said love is blind but damn. You’re trying to give him love and he is as blind as Ray Charles in a dark room with shades on. 

Who is the problem? Is it you or is it him? At this point, you probably don’t even know. The truth is it is both of y’all, but mostly you. Even though that’s not what you want to hear, I got to give you the real. He is not doing anything you don’t let him do. Ask yourself why would he change or appreciate you now, when he didn’t do it before and you still gave him your all? 

I remember an old man telling me one day, you should love who loves you. I was to young to understand it then, but now it makes so much sense. Right now you are doing all you can to get somebody to see that you love them. The whole time you are feeling unloved. The reality is for many men they don’t realize how much love you were giving until they see someone else receiving it. Now some people get it a little sooner, but even then you have created a level of expectation that will demand more even when they are giving you less. 

What I would suggest is you start loving you more. If he can’t give you the same love you’re giving yourself find someone who can. Him not realizing your effort has less to do with you and more to do with him. He has either some issues he hasn’t dealt with or still has some growing to do. Either way, it’s not something you can fix. 

The crazy part is you keep hoping and praying for him to see the light. Eventually, you will love him so much that he is going to change. What you don’t realize is that’s exactly why he hasn’t changed yet. And if he does finally get there, by then you will probably be so empty from all you have given you won’t even be able to enjoy it. 

My advice to you is to move on to find someone who has outgrown the games and overcame their pain. Look for someone who has learned how to love themselves and how to be loved at the same time. Then you have to go through your own healing process. You must learn to love yourself because loving the wrong people will rob you of that ability. Make sure you continue to grow into the woman you know you can be and the woman the man you want deserves. 

2 thoughts on “The Losing Battle – What to do when he won’t change”
  1. get in touch with the ALIBABA RETAILER people in China and Order a perfect person from their Artificial Intelligence Robots and or maybe one with the computer that can be programmed to respond to you perectly.
    They are not that expensive and your problems and troubles are over.
    The A I robot can do anything a real human does, has many adjustment and sizes.
    Maybe get a few for different events!

  2. She is just like and maybe even worse! In NOLA, the Caucasion DA, Coroner, Criminal Sheriff, Judge, Apostate Preacher, all rule both she and he and these depart when they decide to go, just like she or he probably will! Change you to get change! Fundamental? i.e.,-
    LBRC- What is “Deception”? Ask a Deceptive Spirit. What do you get? Duh…???

    The Whole point of Deception? Ans. Make you believe something is what it is not. Spiritually speaking? Now say Satan and his “Earthly” ilk!!! Apostate Preachers, Ambitious Negro Political Thievies, Your Run of the Mill Liars, media types, Sycophants and yada…, Pray on ignorance, why The Most High said to “Study”. He would not have you “Ignorant”, even to choose to condemn yourself after being given choices. Via “General and Anecdotal” observations- 99.999% of Common Negroes are “Herded” ‘Simps! We wondered sometime back, how could it be only 144K out of 7 Billion. 

    1. Deception Definition- 1 archaic : ensnare, 2 a obsolete : to be false to, to fail to fulfill, 3 obsolete : cheat, 4 : to cause to accept as true or valid what is false or invalid, : to practice deceit; also : to give a false impression /So says Caucasian Webster Negroes/. Deceptive Ambition motivates Too many Radio/TV sycophants! ‘Simps are The Low Hanging Fruit! 

    2. Success with anything is “Discipline”, i.e., In America, voting matters! Are votes manipulated at times? Of course, but when you don’t? “Your arguments are moot! Common ‘Simps hardly turnout at 50%. In New Orleans La., one election yielded a 7% Turnout! The last NOLA Covid “Food Lines” observed, easily dwarfed Voting Lines (How long has ‘Dat Storm been on The Horizon?). Negro ‘Simps are “Professional Hustlers”, ‘Stuntun, Talking “Yang” and yada… “Profound” Ignorance is more destructive than Covid! Now ask, where did all these “Chicken Sh*#” Negro Politicos come from to get elected? Ans. Does your house have a mirror? How come the same doesn’t advocate for you? Explained by your Stupidity and “Ignorance” Imhotep!!! “Moron” designation is not a deception but is what it is! They tell you who is good or bad aka “Stupid in, get Stupid out! Duh…? ‘Simp Echo Chambers take ‘it and run with it”!!! Want to know why”? Go to the “Psychology Today” Archive and look up “Sheep Response” aka The “Herd” Mentality, Heard than Herd! The “American Negro Herd” generally speaking, is controlled and manipulated via “Deception”! Exactly why everybody else’s Ice is Colder! What did Gump say? Ans. Stupid is as Stupid does (The same applies to Ignorance). Again, never confuse so- called “Education” with “Intelligence”. Ex.- In Majority Negro NOE, NOLA, anybody is more qualified to hold office on any given day then a comparable Negro Candidate. This is why these Negroes worship a “Blue Dog” Governor, De Facto Republican! White Republicans get passes, but they hate “Liberal Progressive” Black Republicans with Black Agendas? We recall Mrs. King, Dr. Martin Luther King’s wife, encouraging young people to infiltrate “Both” Major and minor Parties. It’s “The Art of War” Imhotep! 

    3. Spiritually speaking? Scripture tells us? Stupid desires a (k)ing, not The King of Kings! Kissing Azzes is Stupid’s revered Art Form! ABC Judas Negro coalitions et al, tells “Stupid” independent thinking is useless! Once they receive “The Bag”, they’ll tell “you”! 

    “What is it about deceiving Stupid you don’t get Imhotep”? 

    a. Spiritually- You call The Most High a liar and say, this world will be here forever and “Tomorrow” is guaranteed. The time can’t be now? Grandma says it ‘Dis way- “When she passes away- Visit her Grave Site and “Pray for her to get ‘betta”! 

    b. What’s in your face in 2020? Plagues, Earthquakes is “Diverse” places, Man and Woman are a tenuous sex designation and yada…, The worst of it? Deception rules, “The Truth is a lie and a lie is the truth! Yep! Whatever Radio/TV endorses, Stupid believes! They’re for watching and listening, then Discerning, not believing in Imhotep! We believe it now, only 144K! Peace Out…  

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