The Law of Attraction
by Love Dr. Rob
She said she didn’t know what to do. It’s like she just kept attracting the same kind of men. Either all men are the same or only the same kind liked her. For her, it was either pick one of them or be by herself. And for her being alone wasn’t an option.
The truth is she was so focused on who was attracted to her she didn’t think about who she was attracted to. It didn’t matter who tried to talk to her, slide in her DM, or shoot their shot, she had to accept them. The problem wasn’t that the same type of men approached her. The problem was she kept accepting them.
For most of us, it is hard to admit that we are the problem. We don’t want to be the reason our relationships aren’t working. It can’t be me, it has to be them is the typical mindset. However, I tell people all the time when a relationship ends it’s never just one person’s fault. You did something wrong even if all you did was pick them.
It is important to recognize what you’re attracted to. And not just the good but the bad as well. Just as important as the physical traits are emotional traits. Often what looks good to us, isn’t always good for us. Most times we will pick somebody beautiful on the outside, and ugly on the inside.
You might be the problem!
Also, it is important to make sure you have you together before adding anyone else to your mix. It is impossible to choose what is good for you when you’re not in a good space. Until you have resolved your issues anyone you choose is going to be an issue.
Remember no one has more control over who comes into your life than you. The moment you become attracted to happy, healthy love the sooner you will attract it. Don’t just break up with the people also break up with the thing that drew you to them. Once that happens you gain control and dictate the law of attraction.
Jeff Thomas
Publisher • Opinion Columnist • Licensed General Contractor • Real Estate Appraiser • New Orleans
Jeff Thomas is the publisher of Black Source Media and one of New Orleans’ most direct voices on civic affairs, economic justice, and Louisiana politics. He writes from the intersection of experience and accountability — as a licensed general contractor,a tech company founder and executive with over 30 years experience, and a businessman who has worked across the city’s civic, media, and construction ecosystems for decades.
His Sunday column covers Louisiana legislative politics, insurance discrimination, housing policy, and the forces shaping Black community life in New Orleans and across the state. Thomas writes in the tradition of Black journalists who hold power accountable without apology — building arguments from data, delivering verdicts from evidence, and speaking to Black New Orleans with the directness the moment demands.
He is also the principal of Executive Appraisers Louisiana, an MBE-certified real estate appraisal firm, and EA Inspection Services, LLC, a government inspection services company. Black Source Media is his platform for the civic conversation New Orleans has needed and too rarely had.
Selected Articles by Jeff Thomas
Black Neighborhoods Pay the Highest Insurance Rates in Louisiana. Here’s What They Don’t Want You to Know.
They Didn’t Yell the N-Word. They Went to Law School, Bided Their Time, and Rewrote the Constitution Instead.
Vappie vs. Morrell: Why Does Justice Look Different in New Orleans?
The State Has the Money. New Orleans East Just Needs Them to Use It.
The Failure of Mitch Landrieu
Publisher — Black Source Media
Jeff Thomas
Publisher • Opinion Columnist • Licensed General Contractor • Real Estate Appraiser • New Orleans
Jeff Thomas is the publisher of Black Source Media and one of New Orleans’ most direct voices on civic affairs, economic justice, and Louisiana politics. He writes from the intersection of experience and accountability — as a licensed general contractor,a tech company founder and executive with over 30 years experience, and a businessman who has worked across the city’s civic, media, and construction ecosystems for decades.
His Sunday column covers Louisiana legislative politics, insurance discrimination, housing policy, and the forces shaping Black community life in New Orleans and across the state. Thomas writes in the tradition of Black journalists who hold power accountable without apology — building arguments from data, delivering verdicts from evidence, and speaking to Black New Orleans with the directness the moment demands.
He is also the principal of Executive Appraisers Louisiana, an MBE-certified real estate appraisal firm, and EA Inspection Services, LLC, a government inspection services company. Black Source Media is his platform for the civic conversation New Orleans has needed and too rarely had.
Selected Articles by Jeff Thomas
Black Neighborhoods Pay the Highest Insurance Rates in Louisiana. Here’s What They Don’t Want You to Know.
They Didn’t Yell the N-Word. They Went to Law School, Bided Their Time, and Rewrote the Constitution Instead.
Vappie vs. Morrell: Why Does Justice Look Different in New Orleans?
The State Has the Money. New Orleans East Just Needs Them to Use It.
The Failure of Mitch Landrieu