Sorry Not Sorry
He was drenched in tears, snotty nose and all. He just wanted his family back. She didn’t mean anything to him. Ain’t it funny when he got caught he got sorry.
It always amazes me just how sorry a person can be after they get caught. There were no tears, no what about my wife and family, no it’s not worth it before then. Now all of a sudden, after you find out, they realize what they really wanted was you. Yeah alright, miss me with all that.
Do I think a person can be sincere in their apology? The answer is yes. But for me that apology loses value if I catch you in the act. What happened to you being sorry after you got the number? Or why weren’t you sorry after your first conversation? Where was all the I’m sorry when the person you love was sitting alone waiting on you?
Sorry is supposed to fix it?
The craziest part is that they believe I’m sorry is supposed to fix everything. As if once you hear those two words, all is forgiven and forgotten. Yes there is power in words, but it’s a long way from that light from the movie “Men in Black”. It’s going to take more than a flash to make all that go away.
What most people don’t understand is how much hurt is caused in that moment. Trust is gone, respect is lost, and a heart is broken because of their actions. Yet they expect words to fix it. It is going to take a hell of a lot more than that.
You’re Sorry. You’re sorry? Sorry for what is the question. Sorry you lied? Sorry you robbed them of the love they deserved? Sorry you did this to your relationship? Or are you sorry you got caught. At this point the only thing you said half way right is that you’re sorry, and you even said that wrong. What you should have said was you ARE sorry. And if that seems a little harsh, Sorry, but I’m not sorry.
Jeff Thomas
Publisher • Opinion Columnist • Licensed General Contractor • Real Estate Appraiser • New Orleans
Jeff Thomas is the publisher of Black Source Media and one of New Orleans’ most direct voices on civic affairs, economic justice, and Louisiana politics. He writes from the intersection of experience and accountability — as a licensed general contractor,a tech company founder and executive with over 30 years experience, and a businessman who has worked across the city’s civic, media, and construction ecosystems for decades.
His Sunday column covers Louisiana legislative politics, insurance discrimination, housing policy, and the forces shaping Black community life in New Orleans and across the state. Thomas writes in the tradition of Black journalists who hold power accountable without apology — building arguments from data, delivering verdicts from evidence, and speaking to Black New Orleans with the directness the moment demands.
He is also the principal of EA Inspection Services, LLC, a government inspection services company. Black Source Media is his platform for the civic conversation New Orleans has needed and too rarely had.
Selected Articles by Jeff Thomas
Black Neighborhoods Pay the Highest Insurance Rates in Louisiana. Here’s What They Don’t Want You to Know.
They Didn’t Yell the N-Word. They Went to Law School, Bided Their Time, and Rewrote the Constitution Instead.
Vappie vs. Morrell: Why Does Justice Look Different in New Orleans?
The State Has the Money. New Orleans East Just Needs Them to Use It.
The Failure of Mitch Landrieu
Publisher — Black Source Media
Jeff Thomas
Publisher • Opinion Columnist • Licensed General Contractor • Real Estate Appraiser • New Orleans
Jeff Thomas is the publisher of Black Source Media and one of New Orleans’ most direct voices on civic affairs, economic justice, and Louisiana politics. He writes from the intersection of experience and accountability — as a licensed general contractor,a tech company founder and executive with over 30 years experience, and a businessman who has worked across the city’s civic, media, and construction ecosystems for decades.
His Sunday column covers Louisiana legislative politics, insurance discrimination, housing policy, and the forces shaping Black community life in New Orleans and across the state. Thomas writes in the tradition of Black journalists who hold power accountable without apology — building arguments from data, delivering verdicts from evidence, and speaking to Black New Orleans with the directness the moment demands.
He is also the principal of EA Inspection Services, LLC, a government inspection services company. Black Source Media is his platform for the civic conversation New Orleans has needed and too rarely had.
Selected Articles by Jeff Thomas
Black Neighborhoods Pay the Highest Insurance Rates in Louisiana. Here’s What They Don’t Want You to Know.
They Didn’t Yell the N-Word. They Went to Law School, Bided Their Time, and Rewrote the Constitution Instead.
Vappie vs. Morrell: Why Does Justice Look Different in New Orleans?
The State Has the Money. New Orleans East Just Needs Them to Use It.
The Failure of Mitch Landrieu