The Perfect Stranger
by Love Dr. Rob
You had your share of bad situations. You think you know why most relationships fail. And one day you finally meet them. They are THE one – your soulmate. Mr. or Mrs. Perfect- the one you have waited for forever. Then one morning you wake up like “who the hell are you?”
It has happened to so many of us. The person who was everything you ever wanted, became the one you never want again. Which one is the real them? At this point, it’s too hard to tell, and now you don’t trust yourself or them.
What happens, far too often, is people want you so much that they become who you want them to be. As they sit listening to you, they are transforming right before your eyes. Everything you like and don’t like they are making a mental note of it. And just like that there you have it Mr. or Mrs. Perfect.
Once they got you….
The problem is once they have you, THEY HAVE YOU. You have fallen for who you think they are, and then the real them shows up. Now they expect you to love them for who they are when you don’t even know who they are. Then to complicate things even more they blame you because they weren’t honest.
First, a relationship without trust is a relationship headed for disaster. How can you trust someone who has had a mask on from the beginning? Here you are sharing your whole self with them, while they are hiding. It is hard enough for most of us to trust somebody with our heart anyway, but to have to trust it again with someone who wasn’t genuine from the start is mission impossible.
Secondly, if this person has to pretend to be someone else, they don’t even believe they deserve you. With that being said you would have to sacrifice what you want for someone who has proven they wouldn’t do the same for you. Who wants to give their all to someone they had to settle for? This is a recipe for destruction.
Love Yourself
This is why I recommend people DO NOT ENTER a relationship until they are happy with themselves. As important as knowing what you want is, you should become everything they would want as well. This doesn’t mean you have to be perfect, but you do have to be self-assured. That means they will know exactly what and who they are getting from the start.
Also, another step that is just as important as taking your time. Moving too quickly gives them an advantage. It is harder for actors to stay in character for a long period of time. Even without knowing, they start showing glimpses of who they truly are. You need to know if they are who they say they are, or is it just an act. If it’s an act you have every right to cut and wrap that scene. If you don’t, one day you will wake up and your heart will belong to a perfect stranger.
Jeff Thomas
Publisher • Opinion Columnist • Licensed General Contractor • Real Estate Appraiser • New Orleans
Jeff Thomas is the publisher of Black Source Media and one of New Orleans’ most direct voices on civic affairs, economic justice, and Louisiana politics. He writes from the intersection of experience and accountability — as a licensed general contractor,a tech company founder and executive with over 30 years experience, and a businessman who has worked across the city’s civic, media, and construction ecosystems for decades.
His Sunday column covers Louisiana legislative politics, insurance discrimination, housing policy, and the forces shaping Black community life in New Orleans and across the state. Thomas writes in the tradition of Black journalists who hold power accountable without apology — building arguments from data, delivering verdicts from evidence, and speaking to Black New Orleans with the directness the moment demands.
He is also the principal of EA Inspection Services, LLC, a government inspection services company. Black Source Media is his platform for the civic conversation New Orleans has needed and too rarely had.
Selected Articles by Jeff Thomas
Black Neighborhoods Pay the Highest Insurance Rates in Louisiana. Here’s What They Don’t Want You to Know.
They Didn’t Yell the N-Word. They Went to Law School, Bided Their Time, and Rewrote the Constitution Instead.
Vappie vs. Morrell: Why Does Justice Look Different in New Orleans?
The State Has the Money. New Orleans East Just Needs Them to Use It.
The Failure of Mitch Landrieu
Publisher — Black Source Media
Jeff Thomas
Publisher • Opinion Columnist • Licensed General Contractor • Real Estate Appraiser • New Orleans
Jeff Thomas is the publisher of Black Source Media and one of New Orleans’ most direct voices on civic affairs, economic justice, and Louisiana politics. He writes from the intersection of experience and accountability — as a licensed general contractor,a tech company founder and executive with over 30 years experience, and a businessman who has worked across the city’s civic, media, and construction ecosystems for decades.
His Sunday column covers Louisiana legislative politics, insurance discrimination, housing policy, and the forces shaping Black community life in New Orleans and across the state. Thomas writes in the tradition of Black journalists who hold power accountable without apology — building arguments from data, delivering verdicts from evidence, and speaking to Black New Orleans with the directness the moment demands.
He is also the principal of EA Inspection Services, LLC, a government inspection services company. Black Source Media is his platform for the civic conversation New Orleans has needed and too rarely had.
Selected Articles by Jeff Thomas
Black Neighborhoods Pay the Highest Insurance Rates in Louisiana. Here’s What They Don’t Want You to Know.
They Didn’t Yell the N-Word. They Went to Law School, Bided Their Time, and Rewrote the Constitution Instead.
Vappie vs. Morrell: Why Does Justice Look Different in New Orleans?
The State Has the Money. New Orleans East Just Needs Them to Use It.
The Failure of Mitch Landrieu
LBRC- Think 504 Edits Comments, did you know ‘Dat?
We submitted several comments (Non Expletive) to “Think 504” with “Links” to support our “Point of View”! Readers are “Free” to disagree or not! What happened? Ans. Think 504 responded with “Your Comments are Repetitive”! Well now and so much for “Drill and “Related Drill” given substance to “Consistence”!!! We comprehend the “link” between investments in Radio and “Critiques” which may or may not impact perceptions and “Income”, however? How do you claim Journalism when you “Edit” comments you deem either “Receptive” or/and Anti, your subjective “Narrative”? Yeah right!!! We dare you to print and allow this Jeff!!!
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