Is your phone draining your relationship?
When’s the last time you turned around because you forgot your spouse? Not your phone—your actual partner. When’s the last time you checked on your mate as often as you check your notifications?
Now imagine your partner was your phone.
If you’re being honest, that hit different.
I know people who’ve been late to work—or even missed a whole day—just to go back for their phones. People who’ve locked themselves out of their house, keys forgotten, phone remembered. Every few minutes, we’re on our phones: checking the time, scanning for messages, scrolling through updates, guarding our battery life like it’s our lifeline.
We trust our phones more than the people we live with. We put our dreams, goals, thoughts, and secrets into these devices—and come home with nothing left to say. Sometimes, your phone knows more about you than your partner does. And let’s be real—some of those group chats? Relationship enders. Fellas, I’ll just say this: don’t go scrolling.
We’ve gotten so connected to our phones that we’ve disconnected from what actually matters. Some of us don’t even realize something’s wrong with our partner until we see it on their story or post. I’ve been there too. And then we get mad they didn’t come to us first—forgetting we checked on Instagram before we checked on them.
I remember when we didn’t have cell phones. Some of y’all don’t. These things have become our teachers, our babysitters, our lifelines. We’ve given them more power than they deserve.
But here’s the wildest part: something we’re supposed to control has ended up controlling us.
We panic if we leave it behind. We feel naked if it dies. And ee guard it like it’s priceless.
Now imagine giving that same energy to your partner.
Because here’s the truth—your phone can be replaced, repaired, or recharged.
That’s not always true for the people you love.