Image Still Matters

by Dion M. Harris

Ever notice how classically put-together and well-groomed civil rights marchers were in the 1950s and ’60s?

Starched or carefully-ironed shirts and trousers on men; neat blouses tucked into modest skirts – or dresses with hosiery – on women. Oftentimes, both groups took to the streets in suits, marching for miles in Southern climes in the fight for justice and dignity. Clearly, things have changed.

Oftentimes, it seems they’ve changed a bit too much for comfort. Especially if you’re older than 40. Generally speaking, we’ve changed our image too drastically to be taken seriously. Or to garner the respect we once naturally commanded as ambitious people hungry for The American Dream.

It’s been nearly five years since a unanimous jury acquitted George Zimmerman, the then-29-year-old Neighborhood Watchman, of all charges, effectively letting him walk away with murdering Trayvon Martin as the youth, 17, walked to his father’s townhouse in Florida. As a matter of fact, the spate of unarmed black men, women and youth being murdered across America by overzealous citizens and officers of the law has increased.

It’s clear to me that the best way for young men of color – especially young, black men – to wreck onerous stereotypes of who they are is for them all to now play a revolutionary hard defense: Clean yourselves up and go respectable. Don’t give Them a chance to put you in a box. That is, just by looking at you. After all, as was demonstrated in Zimmerman’s three-week trial in Sanford, Fla., a little bit of imagination goes a long, long way when defending murderous behavior.

If The Other sees you and feels threatened – even if you’re minding your business and they’re following you – you might not live to set the record straight. So, prepare ahead of time, and bring your best plan to the game.

Think for a moment. When The Other views you, do they actually see you – or who They want you to be? Who They think you are? However, the question to ask yourselves is: What am I presenting?

Presenting yourself like an overgrown child is an overall detrimental tactic. It won’t help you get a slice of any legitimate action. It doesn’t aid your case for employment or dates. I’m tired of seeing your bare, boxer shorted-ass on public streets when I leave my sanctuary:  Buy pants that fit and a good belt! There’s nothing cute about exposing yourselves the way you’ve been doing over the past 20 years. If anything, it advertises a predilection and solicitousness for homosexual activity, just like in the jailhouse where the “style” originated.

Neck tattoos, gold teeth and hair all over your head are scary. To people who look like you – and especially to those who don’t. They’re unnatural, crude, scream “Bad Judgment” and ‘I don’t care.’ To the larger culture they’re just plain unattractive. Intolerable. These are a few of the “trendy” ways one signals oneself an undisciplined and unruly person, outside the margins of polite – read: useful – society. Is there any doubt why you continually receive the reception you get?

So as your big sister, your cousin, your auntie or your friendly neighbor, I say it’s time for you to fight back: Clean it up, cover it up, cut it off. Man up.  Take your dignity back. The Other may think you’re up to no good, but being above reproach is a choice we make.

Once upon a time, when Americans still took pride in dressing up to go to work, do some shopping or even travel via plane, train or automobile, home-training for black folks consisted in large part of being taught how to present themselves in the best possible light, clean and pristine, at all times. In short, how to manage their image.

Manage your inherent “scariness” so you can ride off into the sunset and live to successfully resist the profile, the set-up, the take-down another day.

9 thoughts on “Image Still Matters

  • January 24, 2019 at 8:57 am
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    What kind of respectability politics foolishness is this? Black men (and women) are not being systematically targeted for state-sanctioned violence and extrajudicial killings because of what they are wearing. And the “grooming” and “classically put” togetherness of participants in the Civil Rights Movement of the ’50’s-’70’s did not in any way keep Black people from getting harassed, beaten, chased by dogs, drowned by fire hoses, bombed, threatened, stalked and killed. Of all of the lessons from the CRM “dress to impress your oppressors” is not one of them. This is the same as telling women to watch what they wear if they don’t want to get raped, instead of telling men to NOT RAPE. It puts the onus of dismantling oppression on the backs of those being oppressed! No matter how anyone chooses to show up in the world they must be valued and their humanity and rights must be respected and protected. The goal isn’t to make ourselves palatable to people who fear us and would do us harm. The goal is for those who aim to oppress us to STOP and behave civilly and respectfully no matter what we look like or whether or not they want to. This take is the opinion of people who don’t know they are slaves. It is out of touch, inaccurate and disrespectful. Do better.

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    • January 24, 2019 at 2:10 pm
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      NLW, my point is that the way you look should be the LEAST of any reasons for being stopped and/or harassed. So make it a non-issue in a world that’s watching you, anyway. What’s wrong with having respect for oneself, first?

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  • January 24, 2019 at 10:05 am
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    This is a shame that we have to think this way in 2019! We had Obama and still have to dress a certain way. America sucks man!

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    • January 24, 2019 at 2:15 pm
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      Ever see President Obama show up for work like some of our children show up for school? Not ever.

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  • January 24, 2019 at 10:07 am
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    We have to protect our young men from the prejudices of the police. But this seems a bit much. Can I just be warm in my hoodie and still get a job?

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    • January 24, 2019 at 2:12 pm
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      Why would a young man – or woman – expect to get a job while wearing a hoodie? It’s inappropriate.

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  • January 24, 2019 at 10:13 am
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    Thanks for telling it like it is. Pull up your damn pants

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  • January 28, 2019 at 8:02 am
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    I agree with the pulling up of the pants, and dressing appropriately when going to work or job interviews. I personally am not interested in seeing anyone’s underwear. However, you have no right to tell someone how to wear their hair. If that is the case then woman should not wear weaves, braids, 1p zillion different colors of hair which can be distracting. I’m a 57 year old woman who has worn dreads for over 20 years, so I should cut my hair to fit society’s look. Black people been using hair and fashion to express themselves for years. Just pull your pants up and I’ll be happy.

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  • January 31, 2019 at 9:20 am
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    It took me sometime to finally read this article…afraid of what I might find. To my dismay what I felt I found was someone telling black men on some level to code switch and on an even deeper level to assimilate. I hope that is not what you meant. I have read some of your comments and I am hoping you can further clarify this article because as much as I dislike sagging and have never been a fan of dreadlocks, for myself, not doing it in an effort to change others behavior will never work. Being someone who is similarly dressed like the brothers in the picture and like those from the civil rights movement let me say I have seen my fair share of prejudice and profiling…but to your point I am still here to talk about it. But there has to be a better explanation than to assimilate. This definitely deserves more discussion.

    Thanks

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